Dilly Hilton

As a couples counsellor, my approach aims to help couples and individuals to make sense of what might feel confused, to take time to consider their situation in depth and to feel confident to make changes that will help them achieve their goals.  

I recognise that relationship distress can make it feel harder to manage the inevitable ups and downs of life and can affect our self confidence and wellbeing.

You don't have to be in crisis to benefit from couple counselling but many couples do wait until they reach a crisis point.  Couple counselling can help you improve your communication, deepen your intimacy and increase your understanding of yourselves and each other.

I commit to offering you a safe space within a caring and supportive environment in which you will be listened to and understood, and together we will work out what you hope to achieve from counselling and ways in which you can achieve your goals.

While counselling isn't advice giving, I offer strategies and approaches, based on established research into the behaviours which help to promote fulfilling relationships.

Common difficulties I work with include:

Struggling to communicate well

Arguing over the same thing time and again

Drifting apart as a couple

Worrying about work or family

Coping with the aftermath of an affair

Considering separation or divorce

Having issues with sex and intimacy

Being single and wanting to be in a relationship

Life changes such as

New baby

Children leaving home

Retirement

I have almost 30 years experience of providing counselling. My accreditation by both BACP and COSRT reflect the seven years of study I have undertaken to become a counselling psychotherapist, with specific interest and expertise in working to help couples and individuals improve their relationships.

I have worked with Relate since 2000, in GP, hospital and educational settings and have specialisms in Psychosexual Therapy and Behavioural Therapy for Depression.  I am experienced in providing counselling (via Macmillan) for cancer patients and working with bereaved parents.  I have also had several years experience as a clinical manager with responsibility for counselling in the corporate sector.

My consulting room is in Witney where I offer face to face sessions. For those who prefer, I offer remote sessions via Zoom.

An initial session is a chance for you to talk about your concerns and consider what you hope to get out of counselling. This helps us decide whether what I offer is best suited to your needs. If it is, and you wish to go ahead, we decide on a day of the week and time that we can meet.