Davina Robertson

You can book a free 20 minute introductory appointment on my website.

 I work online with parents who have lost a child to suicide. I also offer free monthly workshops on aspects of this devastating experience.

• Does your life feel as if it is in two very separate pieces; before your child died and after they died?
• Do you wear a mask out in the world so that no-one really knows how you are?
• Does it feel as if no-one understands how it is for you so that you feel alone in your grief?
• Do people avoid mentioning your son or daughter in case they ‘upset’ you?
• Do you struggle with family occasions, birthdays and anniversaries, not really knowing how to mark them or even dreading them?
• Do you worry that you are leaving your child behind as time passes?

Maybe you want to…

• Develop some strategies for being present to the thoughts and feelings that you experience without getting overwhelmed.
• Work out how to include your daughter or your son in family occasions and gatherings in ways that are OK for you.
• Reflect on your current relationship with your child and how to stay connected with them.
• Work out how to communicate with your partner, family and friends about your needs (and theirs too) around your son or daughter.
• Be confident that you are not taking up too much space when you want to talk about your child or your experience.
• Feel less isolated from the other people around you and be able to put down the mask you wear to go out in the world.

My own 19 year old son died by his own hand in 2004 and my whole life changed overnight. The experience of loss in the initial days and weeks was like a massively powerful and all consuming storm and its aftermath is still so present in my life.

I knew from the early days that I needed to walk forwards, even when it seemed virtually impossible to do that. 

I have learnt so much about what works for me in living with this, what supports me and what works against me, in my efforts to learn to live with this profoundly painful and life changing experience.

I would be honoured to accompany you as you face your own journey.

There are differences in how it works depending on the communication method we choose

For both therapy using video and therapy by phone we have weekly appointments which are one hour long. We work together throughout the session. Sometimes there are silences and that is fine and expected. It is important to have the opportunity to reflect as we go along.

With therapy using email is also a weekly process but we each work in our own time. We use email but we are more writing letters to each other. My emails will include my responses to what you share in your email to me. I will make comments and ask you questions to support you to reflect and explore further.

What to expect in your weekly online therapy sessions

If you agree to continue with the sessions then we will meet weekly. Each session together we will spend our time exploring how you are in relation to your concerns. How you really are. We will think about what it is that you want to be different for you. I will check to make sure I am accurately understanding what you are telling me. I may ask further questions so that I can understand more. My aim is always to get a closer understanding of your world. I will not judge or compare this with mine or anyone else’s. The things you are concerned about might shift and change as we go along. I will be checking that we are still doing what matters most to you.

I will always allow you to go at your own pace and I will always follow your lead. The idea is that, through your therapy , things will begin to change for you for the better. Of course, that change is different for everyone and can take a few sessions or longer to begin. We will be reviewing and checking out how it’s going at regular intervals.

All bookings can be made online on my website.

You can book a free 20 minute introductory session with me to hear a little more and to ask any questions you have. I will be very happy to have a conversation with you.

Alternatively you can book an initial session, by video or phone.

In our first online therapy session we will need to agree some practical things. These include how many sessions to have, the timings for the sessions and so on. I will then ask you to tell me a little about what you are concerned about. We will discuss whether therapy with me is likely to be a useful approach for you.

I want you to get the right support. If I don’t feel that working with me is the right approach for you then I will say so. In that case I will support you to find an approach that suits you better.

We can then agree what to use the rest of the session to focus on. You will also have a chance to consider whether you would like to go ahead with another five sessions.

You can book a 20 minute introductory appointment with me through my website.

I work online with parents who have lost a child to suicide. 

💙💙💙💙💙

• Does your life feel as if it is in two very separate pieces; before your child died and after they died?

• Do you wear a mask out in the world so that no-one really knows how you are?

• Does it feel as if no-one understands how it is for you so that you feel alone in your grief?

• Do people avoid mentioning your son or daughter in case they ‘upset’ you?

• Do you struggle with family occasions, birthdays and anniversaries, not really knowing how to mark them or even dreading them?

• Do you worry that you are leaving your child behind as time passes?

Maybe you want to…

• Develop some strategies for being present to the thoughts and feelings that you experience without getting overwhelmed.

• Work out how to include your daughter or your son in family occasions and gatherings in ways that are OK for you.

• Reflect on your current relationship with your child and how to stay connected with them.

• Work out how to communicate with your partner, family and friends about your needs (and theirs too) around your son or daughter.

• Be confident that you are not taking up too much space when you want to talk about your child or your experience.

• Feel less isolated from the other people around you and be able to put down the mask you wear to go out in the world.

💙💙💙💙💙

My own 19 year old son died by his own hand in 2004 and my whole life changed overnight. The experience of loss in the initial days and weeks was like a massively powerful and all consuming storm and its aftermath is still so present in my life.

I knew from the early days that I needed to walk forwards, even when it seemed virtually impossible to do that.

I have learnt much about what works for me, what supports me and what works against me, in my efforts to learn to live with this profoundly painful and life changing experience.

I would be honoured to accompany you as you face your own journey.

Warmest wishes, Davina 💙🙏💙

What to expect in your weekly online therapy sessions.

If you agree to continue with the sessions then we will meet weekly. 

Each session together we will spend our time exploring how you are in relation to your concerns. How you really are. We will think about what it is that you want to be different for you. I will check to make sure I am accurately understanding what you are telling me. I may ask further questions so that I can understand more. 

My aim is always to get a closer understanding of your world. I will not judge or compare this with mine or anyone else’s. The things you are concerned about might shift and change as we go along. I will be checking that we are still doing what matters most to you.

I will always allow you to go at your own pace and I will always follow your lead. The idea is that, through your therapy , things will begin to change for you for the better. Of course, that change is different for everyone and can take a few sessions or longer to begin. 

We will be reviewing and checking out how it’s going at regular intervals.

There are differences in how it works depending on the communication method we choose

For both therapy using video and therapy by phone we have weekly appointments which are one hour long. 

We work together throughout the session. Sometimes there are silences and that is fine and expected. It is important to have the opportunity to reflect as we go along.

With therapy using email is also a weekly process but we each work in our own time. We use email but we are more writing letters to each other. 

My emails will include my responses to what you share in your email to me. I will make comments and ask you questions to support you to reflect and explore further.

All bookings can be made online on my website.

You can book a free 20 minute introductory session with me to hear a little more and to ask any questions you have. I will be very happy to have a conversation with you.

Alternatively you can book an initial session, by video or phone.

In our first online therapy session we will need to agree some practical things. These include how many sessions to have, the timings for the sessions and so on. I will then ask you to tell me a little about what you are concerned about. We will discuss whether therapy with me is likely to be a useful approach for you.

I want you to get the right support. If I don’t feel that working with me is the right approach for you then I will say so. In that case I will support you to find an approach that suits you better.

We can then agree what to use the rest of the session to focus on. You will also have a chance to consider whether you would like to go ahead with another five sessions