Virginia Nicholls

Monday : 9.00 am to 7.30 pm

Tuesday : 9.00 am to 7.30 pm

Wednesday : 9.00 am to 7.30 pm

Thursday : 9.00 am to 7.30 pm

I have been a counsellor since 2010. I offer face-to-face and Zoom sessions. I offer a free 10 minutes phone call to discuss if I am the right counsellor for you

I specialise in anticipatory grief, bereavement, grief and loss, trauma reactions, and sex addiction and porn addiction.

Anticipatory grief - this is the period of time where your loved one has been given a life changing diagnosis to their health and you are waiting for them to die. The time span of this waiting can be extremely short or it can go on for years (especially with dementia and some cancers). Life changes for the person with the diagnosis, but also for their partner/spouse and family/friends as they often become the primary carer.

Bereavement, grief and loss - Loss does not have to be just mourning a loved one who has died. Loss can be redundancy, loss of health, a broken friendship, marriage breakdown, failure in exams, death of a pet etc

Trauma reactions - can be caused be a single event such as an accident, sexual assault, physical attack, or natural disaster or long term events such as childhood sexual abuse, domestic violence, financial abuse, emotional abuse, physical abuse or discriminatory abuse. People can store these trauma events in their mind and body.

Anticipatory Grief counselling

Counselling at this time of waiting, can allow you the space to express a whole range of emotions that you don't want to express at home. It can also be a place to work out practical problems that you may be facing as you live through the waiting period.

Bereavement and loss counselling

Counselling at a time of grief or loss, can help process what is going on for you. Grief or loss brings up a huge range of emotions that sometimes cannot be expressed with other family members, so counselling gives the opportunity to look at what you are feeling and thinking, as well as come up with a plan on how to take one day at a time.

Trauma counselling

I used EMDR and parts work (Internal Family Systems) counselling to help release stuck emotional and physical responses to trauma such as anger, panic attacks, phobias, flashbacks, withdrawing, not eating, or excessively drinking, or physical pain in the body.

For more information on EMDR, go to : www.emdrassociation.org.uk

General counselling

In the assessment, we work together to create a plan of what you want to achieve out of the counselling.  

The first/initial session is an opportunity for you to talk about your reasons for coming for counselling.  I will do a fair amount of listening while you explain why you want to have counselling.  I will then explain how I work in therapy and suggest a plan of action of what the sessions may look like.  We will work together in agreeing a plan.  Sometimes, this can take a few sessions to work out, as I gather more information about your life and how you see the world.

I will run through my contract which covers confidentiality and how I work.