Alice Best

I am a Sex and Relationship Therapist, working with individuals and couples both F2F in South East London and online, globally. I help my clients to understand and overcome the issues that are troubling them sexually or in their romantic relationships. 

I work with a wide range of issues across my practice. Some of these may be directly related to sex: perhaps your body is not responding how you want it to during sex, maybe you have experienced sexual trauma that is impacting your current relationship to sex and your body, you might be experiencing low desire or an aversion to sex, you could be interested in exploring Kink, your sexuality or gender and want to understand yourself better. Others may be inter-relational: perhaps you repeatedly find yourself in the same dynamic with partners, you might find it difficult to start or maintain relationships or maybe you are processing the end of a relationship.

Many of these issues also bring couples to my practice, in addition to: differing desire levels, conflict, communication issues, infidelity, fertility issues, exploring non-monogamy or ending a relationship.

An issue with sex or relationships can be enormously distressing and it is my role to provide a compassionate, non-judgemental space in which you can explore this part of yourself. We may look into your past in order to unpack and organise what has led you to this point, but I am equally focused on what you experience in the present and would like from the future. I am particularly interested in the way that our bodies store emotions and memories and believe that exploring this can help you to understand parts of yourself that feel puzzling or frustrating.

I believe that the answers to whatever you are facing are already within you; my role is to help you discover them.

What to expect from sex therapy:

Sex therapy helps individuals to understand why they may be struggling with sex. Sometimes this understanding alone is enough to resolve the issue or to ease anxiety around sexual experiences. For others, I may set homework to be completed between sessions to re-establish a connection between mind and body or to help you to explore what might be contributing to the problem. Therapy is a wonderful way to learn about and build a healthy relationship with oneself, to improve self-esteem, and have fulfilling sexual experiences.

What to expect from couples therapy:

Therapy helps couples to break out of patterns that are harming the relationship and establishes better communication and more enjoyable intimacy. Couples therapy can be challenging as I will invite you to break away from habits, listen to your partner’s experience and come forward with your authentic thoughts and needs. I may use relational exercises in session or set tasks to be completed as homework. Though sometimes hard work, couples therapy can be transformational for a relationship and has the potential to unlock huge fulfilment for each partner.

I offer 20 minute, free Zoom consultations to give you the chance to meet me and get a feel for how I work. If you choose to go ahead with therapy, we will agree on a day and time which will become your reserved slot each week.