Donna Kilday

I have daytime, evening and weekend availability. Contact me to find out more. 

Does the holiday time feel you with dread? Are you worried about spending time with people you find difficult? Or maybe you have lost someone close, and you find this time of year hard? I offer a safe space for you to talk - whether it is about something that happened in the past, now, or is a worry about the future - helping you to feel calmer and more in control.

I am an integrative counsellor who helps adults who may face day to day anxiety and worries, whether because of something they are going through now, or in the past so they can look to the future with confidence. 

Are you a People Pleaser? Does the idea of speaking up for yourself makes you feel ill? Maybe you feel like something needs to change in your life but you're not sure what or how?

 Perhaps you are a parent who feels anxious about work or you are a carer for members of the family? Juggling work, family and time for yourself can be overwhelming, and many parents and carers struggle with anxiety and guilt whilst wanting to build a more balanced life. 

I help parents and unpaid carers who have taken time off work to build their confidence and self esteem so they can take their next steps. 

I am an Integrative Counsellor, simply put that means that I use different tools from different types of Counselling; CBT, Transactional Analysis, Psychodynamic and Person - Centered, to support you in understanding and caring for yourself, giving you a safe space to talk.

I understand the real shock of what it can be like going back to work - navigating all the issues that come with being a parent, and someone who works. I also understand the erosion of self-confidence that can happen after taking time out. Taking the first step can feel difficult.

Sessions are weekly.

I offer online, telephone and face to face counselling. Face to face counselling is held in a spacious, light room on the first floor of a modern building in Shoeburyness, Essex. 

Experience and Qualifications

Higher Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling

Foundation Diploma in Therapeutic Safety in Trauma (NCPS Quality Checked)

Level 4 Diploma in Therapeutic Counselling (MBACP)

Certificate in Counselling Skills

Life Coaching Skills (Ongoing)

Other training courses completed include issues around Narcissism and the Empath, Dealing with Controlling, Intimidating and Manipulative Personalities, Toxic Shame, Unhealthy Relationships, OCD and Anxiety.

I am proud to be an accredited sight loss counsellor with the RNIB.

I have over five years experience volunteering at my local Mind supporting my local community in various roles including as a qualified counsellor.

I also volunteered at for my local Early Help Family Support Service, counselling parents as a student counsellor.

As well as being a qualified counsellor, my career background is in providing Information, Advice and Support to individuals of many different backgrounds including unpaid carers, parents of children with Special Educational Needs and Disabilities for both Local and National Organisations, including Goldsmiths College, University of London, SENDIASS and the National Deaf Children's Society.

On our first session together we will talk about what issues bring you to counselling. This can vary - sometimes its issues from the past or present. Sometimes its worries about the future or a vague feeling that something needs to change. 

Sometimes what people bring to counselling initially may not be what they want to work on as time progresses. Counselling can bring up issues that you may wish to explore further.  Our first session is a chance to talk about what is happening for you. 

Our first session together is a chance for you to ask any questions you have about counselling and to go through our counselling agreement together. We will talk about what times work best for you. Counselling sessions are generally weekly. We will also discuss whether you are looking for short or long term counselling.  Clients have said that I am warm, empathetic and kind.