I wanted to write about what it's like being a dyslexic counsellor and how this enhances the relationship with my clients. Having found out that I was dyslexic at the grand young age of 41, it answered a lot of little niggles that I've had over the years. Although, I excelled at exams, I struggled to articulate what I was trying to say and often couldn't recall information. 

University wasn't an option when I left college, getting a job was what everyone back then did. When I did go to University, at 41, a fantastic tutor suggested that I might be dyslexic. I remember the initial shock, then the anger at being made to read over and over at primary school in rural Ireland, well past home time, glares from classmates as the school bus was waiting. The headmaster would not let anyone go home until I pronounced the words correctly. You can only imagine how popular I was!  

My other siblings had a much worse fate than I did, especially my brothers, beatings were given regularly, shame and humiliation were never far from our door. It was made extremely clear that we would never amount to much. Dyslexia was an unknown entity then.  

Conversely, being dyslexic has resulted in me having excellent listening skills, which enables me to connect with a clients’ core, which I believe, is crucial in nurturing a therapeutic relationship with my clients. Furthermore, in my academic journey, due to my dyslexia, I excel in problem-solving, utilising analytical thinking honed through research endeavours to address challenges. My adaptability, developed from diverse roles, empowers me to navigate the dynamic landscapes of parenting, academia and research with resilience and foresight. 

Feedback over the years from tutors and peers suggest that I easily excel in interpersonal skills, I build strong connections and rapport with my clients; listening to their experiences, and building trust. To strengthen this, I'm from a storytelling culture, my Irish heritage is steeped in folklore and customs; it's part of my identity. My culture places a strong emphasis on hospitality and welcoming guests; this contributes to a culture of friendliness. 

Over the last 40 odd years, I've managed to adapt, when I can't pronounce a word, I quickly think mid-sentence of another ‘easier’ word, this also gives me space to process what my client has brought. I'm finding in my practice that there are more and more neurodivergent clients; I help them to navigate their unique challenges and leverage their strengths. 

Additionally, by having confidence and courage in my ‘dyslexic’ voice and realising that my voice is unique, and my perspective is valuable, and by embracing my dyslexia and working with it, I can further find a powerful and authentic voice that reflects my strengths, skills and experiences, celebrating that my dyslexia is a part of who I am, not a limitation; recognising that my dyslexia does not define my intelligence or my worth. Dyslexia is my superpower.  

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